Experts say mid-thirties is tumulous and traumatic.
It’s constant change. Children and chaos.
I am mid-thirty now. (Ooooh boy! Really?!)
Time to reflect…
I have found internal stability and calmness.
A rather nice contentment.
After a long search.
I mostly credit Don Miguel Ruiz and his book ‘The four agreements’.
And my friend, Michelle, for the recommendation. Its funny how you get to know whose recommendations to absolutely follow up on (another advantage of being mid-thirty, lots of time to get know good people). Chelle recommends absolute treasures!
THE FOUR AGREEMENTS (in a nutshell!)
Basically we have been conditioned from childhood and we’ve made all sorts of agreements with ourselves on how to behave in order to please society.
Time to renew these contracts in four small steps:
1. Be impeccable with your word.
Take responsibility for your actions, but do not judge or blame yourself. Through the word you express your creative power. It is through the word that you manifest everything.
2. Don’t take anything personally.
Taking things personally, is the maximum expression of selfishness because we make the assumption that everything is about “me”.
3. Don’t make assumptions.
We see things the way we want to see them, and not the way they are!
Ask questions until you understand.
State what you want.
4. Always do your best (no more and no less).
This agreement is about the action of the first three.
If you always do your best there is no way you can judge yourself
You are here to live, to be happy and to love.
Doing your best is taking the action because you love it, not because you are expected to do it or expecting a reward.
You have to be aware and learn from your mistakes.
This means practice, look honestly at the results and keep practicing.
This increases your awareness.
After this there is a whole lot more, but i’ll save that for another day.